SW 6 | Why You’re Still Stuck In Your Career (Even Though You’re Doing Everything Right) + Convo Continued With Bex Howells
/You’ve done everything right.
You’ve worked hard.
You’ve installed positive habits.
You’ve optimized your calendar, listened to the self-help podcasts, read the books, done the journaling, maybe even flirted with meditation.
And yet… you still feel stuck. Still feel like you’re not good enough. Still questioning if success is meant to feel like this...
If you’re a high-achieving woman who looks like she’s thriving on paper, but secretly feels burnt out, lost, or like she’s quietly failing at life—this is for you.
Part 1: The Real Reason You’re Stuck
Let’s drop a truth bomb: You cannot better-habit your way out of survival mode.
Most women come to me after doing all the "right" things. And yet they still:
Overthink about work in their free time
Feel impatient, unfulfilled, or self-critical
Battle imposter syndrome and perfectionism
Feel like quitting, pivoting, or disappearing entirely
The truth? These are not problems. These are symptoms.
You’re operating with an outdated identity — one shaped by hustle culture, good girl conditioning, and the need to prove your worth by doing more, holding it all, and never dropping the ball.
You say you want freedom, but you’ve built your self-worth around being indispensable. You long for ease, but deep down, you believe struggle is part of success. That internal conflict? That’s what’s burning you out.
Part 2: Survival Thinking vs. Wild Thinking
Let’s reframe how you think.
Survival Thinking is reactive, fear-based, and rooted in proving. It seeks control to feel safe. It plays by the rules, performs for approval, and sacrifices self for success.
Wild Thinking is self-led, intuitive, and unapologetically powerful. It disrupts norms. It chooses rest, desire, and joy as legitimate strategies for performance. It lets success and sanity exist in the same sentence.
Breakthroughs happen when you shift from Survival to Wild.
Part 3: Your Identity Runs the Show
You don’t act your way into change. You believe your way into it.
Your identity, the quiet “I am” statements running in the background, is dictating your thoughts, your choices, and your energy.
If you're stuck, it's likely because you're still operating from an identity that belongs to an older version of you.
Ask yourself:
“Who am I being right now—and who do I want to become instead?”
Part 4: The Micro Shift That Changes Everything
You don’t need years of healing. You need one bold belief shift.
A decision. A line in the sand.
Like:
"I don’t have to earn rest."
"I am allowed to lead without apology."
"I am a woman who thrives—not just survives."
This is identity-level work. And it's the foundation of my 35-day self-study program, Rise of the Wild Woman. In it, we upgrade your mindset from the inside out so you stop self-sabotaging and start showing up as the powerful, self-led woman you're here to be.
Final Word: You Are Not Broken Nor Crazy
If you’re stuck, exhausted, or questioning everything, here’s what I want you to know:
You are not broken.
You are not too much.
You do not need to try harder.
You’re not crazy.
You just need to start thinking like the next version of you. The bold one. The grounded one. The wild one.
She's already inside you. She's just waiting for permission to lead.
Conversation Continues with Bex Howells
Bex Howells is a Coach, Catalyst, and Disruptor. She’s on a mission to challenge the status quo and close the gender pay gap from the inside out. She’s dismantling internal and external systems to expand human potential.
In this episode, Bex shares her bold transition from public servant to activist, leading a successful nationwide campaign in Aotearoa New Zealand for paid training in female-dominated professions.
We dive into her personal reckoning with burnout, the radical permission to slow down, and how reconnecting with the body and intuition became her true power source.
Connect with Bex here:
Instagram: www.instagram.com/bex.howells/
Website: https://www.bexhowells.com/
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